Originally Posted by KC Becky

i know that's how alot of you boys roll, but that really doesn't help the process

Originally Posted by crtchrktrcr

ok well, after living with the girl for 2 years, i know what time she gets home from work obviously.... so i head over there, armed with a balloon, a gift basket a card and a letter...

i pull up right as she had pulled up.. she gets out and stares at me
"what are you lookin at me like that for?"
-what the **** are you doing here?
"well jamie, it's valentines day, i had to give you these"
-why are you doing this mike, this is the worst day, why are u doing this
"cuz i had to, it's vday, u're supposed to do something nice for the person u love and care about.. so i had to do something for you"
----after i sit there and tell her liste, i love you and i miss you, i know i wasn't as good as i should have been, all i wanna do is fix things---
-mike, i'm done crying over you, and now i'm pissed that you took advantage of me and i let you
"jamie, i'm sorry if i did, it was never intentional, and i can fix it now"
-i have to go get ready-
"where are you going?"
-out with my gf's..
"ok, well just know i love you and miss you, hope you have a good night"
(then i walk away)

so i get home, all upset n ****.. and my phone rings.. from an unknown numbers..
i send it to voicemail...
so then i listen to the voicemail.. it goes as follows...
"This message is for michael, this is officer bailey from scottsdale pd regarding jamie.. You are no longer allowed to contact her in any way shape or form or you will be in direct violation of the law and taken to jail. This also includes if she calls you, you are not to answer the phone....etc...etc"


can you ****** believe that!!! i get her a gift basket, she got me a restraining order... but you know what, **** it, **** her, i'm mother ****** done!!! there's my closure, in the best way possible..

i have been killin myself tryin to think of things i could say to change her mind, things i could do to make her realize we're supposed to be together... wantin to call her so bad, but can't because she wanted space.... now i have nothing to worry about,, i have nothing to say..i said it all... and i'm not goin to jail over it... so i'm closed.

Originally Posted by skillz954

TYPICAL ******* BITCH......I'm sorry Mike, but you got your closure Bro......in a few months you'll feel better to have it behind you......but word to the wise.....I got really self distructive after my 6.5 year relationship went a similar way......don't do anything stupid.....the results of those actions will linger long after you're over her.....

Originally Posted by DBOUNCE1

i don't think id ever live with a chick i wasn't maiired to

Originally Posted by crtchrktrcr

oh dude for sure.. i don't need that **** on my record... i was honestly so calm, and only said nice things... she's lost it..

Originally Posted by skillz954

Do you have to go to court for the restraining order?? I'd call the police dept and get the paperwork she filed.....a girl did that to me and I didn't get the paperwork she filed till we were in court....she accused me of doing things I couldn't do....because I was at drill with the national gaurd....had I known ahead of time they would have thrown it out.....get the paperwork.....cover your *** and they'll probably throw it out and it won't be on your record....

Originally Posted by KC Becky

it's hard but you can't really think like that. i mean, it's nice to think that she will miss you, but when you think like that it's not helping you move on.

Originally Posted by KC Becky

i know that's how alot of you boys roll, but that really doesn't help the process

Originally Posted by MikeM

you got it sewn back on though, and it still works. right?

Originally Posted by NINER

Good advice.

Originally Posted by MikeM

so you would marry a chick you havent lived with?

what if you get married, move her in, and she sucks to live with?

Originally Posted by skillz954

that and the phone message seems a bit fishy to me.....there is always paperwork.....get it.....plus if it was a BS message.....that's impersonating an officer!!

Originally Posted by DBOUNCE1

well my last gf spent the night at my place every night she didn't have her kid which was every other week and i would stay at her place every other week too so we basically did live together but i still had MY own place ya know

Originally Posted by DBOUNCE1

i dunno i'd say it's ligit

Originally Posted by scott3824

its still different

Originally Posted by NINER

For guys it does.

Originally Posted by KC Becky

i know that's how alot of you boys roll, but that really doesn't help the process

Originally Posted by DBOUNCE1

well my last gf spent the night at my place every night she didn't have her kid which was every other week and i would stay at her place every other week too so we basically did live together but i still had MY own place ya know

Originally Posted by skillz954

that and the phone message seems a bit fishy to me.....there is always paperwork.....get it.....plus if it was a BS message.....that's impersonating an officer!!