ok remember earlier when i said that was the stupidest thing i ever heard you say ? i take that back cause this comment trumps your other comment by miles

after 25 years together i think our partnership is not in question and why do i need a marriage license from the state of florida to be partners with some one ?

 

you don't, lol, now you are not listening because I stated that already

It just seemed like you were using the 'fear of change' as a crutch for your reasoning not to get married but that has all been explained now.

 

realism, not pessimism

 

unfortunately without that certificate you cannot share benefits

 

lacey hasn't changed

 

its hard for me to pick on you about that when you pick on yourself about it

 

see you prove my point!! thank you. congrats on the wedding btw!

 

its been a month

 

you choose your words carefully and hope to manipulate the situation by doing so but it is not working ...there is no fear involved and i need no crutch to support my well founded beliefs , they are based on experience and observation.

 

I knew what the sacrifice was when we decided to do what we did. So did she. But at the same time we will have a tax benefit. We are no longer paying for health benefits for 2 separate people, she gets all my benefits from the college which are in the top 3%. Plus we got a bunch of sweet presents, and got to have a huge party. Only downside was we needed to liquidate some assets and have a few bucks to pay my mom back still.

 

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i would not sacrifice our relationship for benefits

like mike said , it's only been a month

 

that was never my intention!!! I was just trying to understand your reasoning!

 

and scott don't take what me and mike are saying as an attack on you , your beliefs are your beliefs and thats that .

if marriage is for you then it is and good luck but it isn't for me and thats that.

 

I just wanted to point out that life has changed for you waaaaaaaaaay more than it has for me

 

using words like fear and crutch are clearly meant to manipulate the conversation in a way that would make me be defensive but i don't feel the need to be defensive about this subject because i feel as though i am 100% right , marriage is a farce and ruins more relationships than it helps .

 

I'm not arguing with you

 

DOH!!!!!!!!

 

i know i just wanted to be clear

 

So if your girl worked a job that didn't offer benefits and something happened that ended up costing $350k all said and done and you had a job that had amazing benefits you wouldn't have said in hindsight that you should have just hit the courthouse for that piece of paper?